Rejection is God’s Protection

Rejection is God’s Protection.

I’ve heard my Senior Pastor say this phrase for years. But I never understood it for myself until recently.

I’m new to this whole writing thing. So, when I was asked to write my first article for CTL – a site that I deeply respect – I timidly accepted the challenge. I began to explore a multitude of technical tricks and tips – potential subject matter for my article – many that I wish had been shared with me early in my career.

But, instead of an article about turning knobs and pushing faders, this article will focus on what God is doing in my life as a technical leader, husband, and father.

Have you ever been charged with a project or had an idea that no one has ever had before? One that you believe could change the trajectory of the Church? (Insert sarcasm here, as well as a little verse by King Solomon in Ecclesiastes 1:9 “History merely repeats itself. It has all been done before. Nothing under the sun is truly new.”)

And then, just like that, you’re removed from the project or have the idea shot down? Well, I have. And I can tell you that it hurts deeply and cause all kinds of reflection in your life.

I was pulled off a major project and it was a huge blow to my ego. The rejection revealed – and continues to reveal in some ways – that I think my ways are the best ways.

It came during a season when I didn’t feel as though I needed protection from anything, especially something that only required my time. But God, in His goodness, was protecting me from something that I could not see for myself. I had become busier than ever He intended me to be.

Looking back to our friend King Solomon in Ecclesiastes, we can see a truth that we as ‘creatives’ often forget. There are no new ideas! Our way is not always the best way. If everything has been done before, then we should take the opportunity to learn from others and share the load with others. Galatians 6:2 tells us that clearly.

This rejection, adding up to what was clearly God’s protection. has been life-changing for my family and me. I’ve learned to work harder and smarter, not longer, which means I’m home much more with my wife and three kids. My laptop rarely makes it home with me these days. And unless they’re urgent, work emails and texts go unanswered until the next day. God protected me from my own nature: working until I fall over, a trait that I see in most technical folks.

I’ve also heard my pastor say that our personal ministry should be a reflection of our personal lives. It should overflow from what’s happening at home. If our home lives are out of balance and unhealthy, then I would suggest that it’s impossible to have a thriving ministry or at least one that reflects the character of God.

So, how do you deal with rejection?

  • I think it is okay to be upset, at least for a short season. Rejection hurts and you may need some time to process the rejection.
  • Be honest with your leadership about the new direction your team or organization is moving in and try to understand their vision with an open heart and mind. Hopefully they will appreciate your honest feedback. Choose to trust them.
  • Be honest with yourself and try to see where God may be protecting you, maybe with your time, resources, or relationships.
  • Have a grateful attitude for all that the Lord has done for you as we are reminded in 1 Thessalonians 5:18.

timcainTim Cain is the Production Manger at the Fort Mill, SC campus of Forest Hill Church based out of Charlotte, NC. He has worked in live production for the past 10 years after an eight-year career as a touring musician. He has been married to his wife Jenny for 10 years and has three children. Tim can be reached at tim.cain@foresthill.org.

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